Nothing harms relationships more than trying to perpetuate the perception of perfection.
That is my quote. It demonstrates why it’s so healthy— and necessary— for us to maintain a sense of humor about ourselves, and even to laugh at ourselves now and then.
This “perfection” principle is proven in every facet of life. Yet parenthood provides some of the most compelling evidence of it’s truth.
Parents who pretend to be perfect detonate explosions that can alienate, sabotage communication, and inflict casualties of conflict and guilt not only in their children but in themselves.
In the early days of my ministry I conducted seminars on parent-teen relationships across the country. As a part of the seminars we surveyed several hundred teenagers. One of the questions in the survey was this: “What words do you most want to hear from your parents?” Of course, “I love you” was the overwhelming first choice. It was their second choice that caught me by surprise!
My contribution to the festivities. Just call me Martha!
Here are twelve resolutions that might make for a peaceful and happy Thanksgiving:
- I will not be the turkey at the table.
- I will help clean up by getting out of the way.
- I will not touch a scale and I will drop all thoughts of calories for one day.
- I will run 8 miles after dropping all thoughts of calories for one day.
- I will not talk politics.
- I will thank my spouse for staying with me one more day.
- I will not watch the news. The news will take the THANKS and the GIVING out of my day.
- I will play board games with the little people and let them win.
- I will not drop a frozen turkey into boiling oil again.
- I will eat the skin while repeating, “It’s good for me. It’s good for me.”
- I will thank everyone at my table for something good they have done in my life.
- I will be nice to the vegetarians. Their sacrifice means more turkey for me.
I will remember to thank God for everything he has done for me.
Seven years ago my nine year old granddaughter, Kialee, and I drove the back roads of Tennessee looking for things to photograph. By looking at the pictures she took you can see that Kialee has an eye for photography.
One special moment in this day stood out to me. We were reviewing the pictures Kialee had taken when I came across the following photo of the Natchez Trace Bridge.
In my book “How to live with your Kids when you have already Lost your Mind,” I identify three levels of communication that we generally use as we talk to our children.
Children have a desperate need for “Level Three” dialogue. On second thought all of us could use a good dose. Here’s what it is.