A recent article by David Burns in Psych Central identified the top ten types of “Stinkin Thinkin;” negative ways of thinking about ourselves that diminish the quality and potential of our lives. I was astounded to discover that I have occasionally entertained some of these destructive thoughts.
It was refreshing and helpful to see them identified. Out in the open, these patterns of thought can be recognized and more effectively dealt with. Here are four of the top ten types of “Stinkin Thinkin” and how I am resolving to eliminate them from my thought process. See if you recognize any of them.
All-or-Nothing Thinking – I occasionally think like this in regard to exercise. If I don’t have time to do the complete hour that I desire, I don’t do any exercise at all. Burns tells of a lady who ate a spoon of ice cream, told herself she had “blown her diet completely” and then feeling defeated, gobbled down an entire quart of ice cream. As a recovering perfectionist, it is easy for me to slip into this pattern.
I am resolved to give each of the tasks in my life my best effort and be satisfied.
Overgeneralization – Recently, while golfing with my friend Michael Hyatt, I missed a two foot putt. “I am a terrible putter!” I muttered. Michael’s wife Gail Hyatt responded, “You are an amazing putter. You only missed one putt!” I didn’t tell her about the other 12 putts I missed while she wasn’t looking, but she was right. A few missed putts are not reason to identify myself as a terrible putter. Have you ever called yourself a loser because of a failed relationship or a project that tanked?
I am resolved to not define myself by the mistakes I make in life.
Mental Filter – I get tens of thousands of encouraging responses to my live shows and to my social media posts. But sometimes someone will deliver a hurtful, negative response. There have been occasions where I have chosen to ignore all the positive feedback and spent days obsessing over one negative comment.
Seeing this listed as “stinkin thinkin” caused me to resolve to ignore the unfair and purposefully hurtful comments and to learn from the comments that could contain constructive criticism.
Jumping to Conclusions – Several holes after missing the short putt I described earlier, I lined up a thirty foot putt muttering the words, “I can never make this.” Fortunately Gail heard my comment. “Have you already forgotten that you are an amazing putter?” she chirped, “You could make this.” I didn’t make that putt, but later in the day I chipped a ball in from much further away. I am so glad that Gail reminded me that if you don’t believe you can do something, your skill level decreases and your efforts to succeed will be greatly diminished. Of all people I should know how important it is to believe.
That’s right! Ken Davis, Lighten up radio host, fully alive author, ambassador of laughter, sometimes stinks in the way he thinks.
I am resolved with the help of God to change that!
I am resolved to remember I am a forgiven empowered child of the living God.
I will believe it,
think like it
and act like it!
Am I the only one who has practiced stinkin thinkin?
Have you found a way to deodorize your thought process?